Fertility is Not a Disease

The sexual revolution has so altered the worldview of many, that we now often treat fertility as a disease. It devastates lives, there are prescriptions to keep its symptoms at bay, and there are surgical procedures to cure it altogether.

To our culture, it seems that fertility has its most devastating effects on women. Men only suffer from its effects tangentially through the pain it inflicts on women. Men can more easily side-step virtue and walk away if the manifestation of the disease becomes too much to bear, but women do not have that luxury.

For women, fertility has ruined careers, helps hold the glass ceiling in place, and, before the technology was invented to end its tyrannical reign, it even kept women from fulfilling their purpose in life by forcing them to neglect their careers and devote time to nurturing their families. Thankfully, to the secular mind, science has overcome this atrocity. If the unthinkable happens, we can now have the life-ruining cancer removed at any neighborhood Planned Parenthood.

Sexual pleasure has become the god of our culture to which all other gods must bow. One of its contenders is reproduction itself. We must separate the pleasure of sex from reproduction and fertility, or there can be no sexual freedom. “My body, my choice” is the battle cry of a generation who, whether they realize it or not, are rebelling against their natural design. Nature, not the patriarchy, is what our culture hates most.

Let us not be naive; this treatment of sex and fertility is the end of a long line of pathologies that have plagued society for centuries. Absent fathers, the breakdown of the family unit, divorce, and pornography; all of these often stem from the same root. That root is the desire to have sexual pleasure without constraint. It is impossible to lay the ax to the root of the sexual revolution without also laying the ax to the root of these as well. This shared foundation is why many people are, rightfully, often charged with hypocrisy when they stand against abortion but have no problem with the casual sex culture.

This desire to have sexual pleasure without constraint has culture suppressing the truth of not only biblical revelation, but also science. In order to be able to justify the extermination of the child, we must classify the child in the womb as either not a human in its natural course of existence or not alive. It is impossible to deny either scientifically, yet, on the altar of sexual autonomy, logic and truth must be sacrificed.

Is it possible to use birth control in a way that does not lead to the conclusion described above? Yes, but we are reaching the bottom of the slippery slope that exists in a world where we hold the shackles of our created nature in contempt, and the technological abilities to side-step those realities coexist. Birth control will only ever be properly used within the confines of marriage in a world that understands that we have been created by a good God who knows what is best for us. A world where we understand that moral restraint is a path to human flourishing. What our society calls constraints, are God-given structures to show us the path to sexual fulfillment.

This post may raise more questions than it answers, but hopefully by framing it this way, it will help us pause and think through the state of our culture a little more deeply. Until we fall in line with the word of God, we will continue to rebel against our Creator’s good intentions for our lives. In our revolt, we curse our blessings and pursue our demise, but praise God, since we have all fallen short, for those who place their faith in Jesus, he will forgive their sins. He will wash them, and they will be whiter than snow. From that point, he will begin to conform us to his image where we will glorify him and enjoy him forever.

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! -Psalm 127:3-5

-D. Eaton

6 thoughts on “Fertility is Not a Disease

  1. To add to your point, as a woman the biggest lie I’ve heard is that children are a noose around your neck, a burden, something horrid. They will END you!

    And yet I see friends with children, with lovely, fulfilling, MEANINGFUL connections to their kids. They are a source of joy and laughter… even to me, and I’m not their mother! 😀 My friends still work, still go out, still enjoy life.

    I bought into the lie for too long, but not anymore. Now I look forward to having a family of my own in the future.

    Thanks for posting!

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  2. Really appreciate your thoughts here and very much agree. Ever since the fall, relationship between man and woman has been skewed on some level. This first misstep has led to atrocities and misuse all throughout the ages right up to this present time of outspoken selfishness and rebellion. Thanks be to God for His grace and mercy to draw us back to a right relationship with Him and each other, if only we will seek it!

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  3. Birth control saved me from scars on my skin in adolescence, and it saves countless women from debilitating menstrual pain that comes from disordered cycles and various medical conditions. There are so many ways that birth control can be truly therapeutic that have nothing to do with preventing pregnancy. In addition, I’ll just add that my kid was given to us in spite of birth control. Ha ha! God will find a way if He wants to make a new person through you and your spouse.

    Having said all of that, your post brings up a topic that needs to be discussed more openly and more charitably. Our society’s elevation of sex and personal whims over nature and basic morality is troubling. The world looks at me (an educated woman with gifts outside of the home) as a waste…because I chose to stay home and raise my daughter full-time. We aren’t as wealthy as we could have been. We don’t have as much for charity as we might have had. I haven’t established a career like I might have done. There are SO MANY people who would look at my life and claim that I’ve thrown it away.

    But I haven’t. I made a calculated choice (and this was long before I met Jesus) with my husband that we wanted this baby–which we hadn’t really planned for–to be raised at home. We changed our lives dramatically over the course of my pregnancy to make that happen. I left my job. My husband took a different one. We sold things and stopped buying things. And it has all been worth it.

    Our daughter was not a punishment. This 18 years that I have chosen to set apart for being fully her mother has not been a waste of my potential. We live in a world where women really can do pretty much anything they want to do, and that’s great. We just can’t do all of it at the same time. Delayed gratification is still a thing, even if the culture refuses to acknowledge its worth.

    On the other hand, it is doubly crucial that we, as the church, show love in the real world and not just on social media or at the ballot box. We can preach about the evils of abortion–and they are myriad–all day long, but if we don’t love and support the women who choose life, who choose to set aside whatever brought them to a pregnancy they don’t feel prepared for and put the child first, then our hypocrisy is shown in the full light of day. We need to despise the poverty and abandonment of “widows and orphans”–single moms and kids in the foster system–as much as we despise abortion. If we don’t, then we’re really missing the entire point.

    I’ve rambled on. Sorry about that. 🙂 . Thanks for writing this. I always enjoy your blog, Mr. Eaton.

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